Choking Your Partner During Sex: What is Erotic Asphyxiation – News18

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In this article, we will break down what erotic asphyxiation is, why some find it appealing, and crucial safety info to know.

Ever felt a thrill from having your breath taken away? You’re not alone. Erotic asphyxiation, or “breath play,” is gaining popularity in bedrooms. But before you grab your partner’s neck, let’s talk safety first. This kink involves restricting oxygen during intimate moments for an intense high. While it may sound edgy, it comes with serious risks. Ready to explore this controversial kink? Take a deep breath, and let’s dive in.

Choking and Erotic Asphyxiation: Defining the Terms

When we talk about choking in the bedroom, we’re not talking about accidentally swallowing a fishbone. In this context, choking refers to the act of applying pressure to someone’s neck during sexual activity. It’s a form of breath play that can restrict blood flow to the brain, creating a lightheaded sensation that some find pleasurable.

Now, erotic asphyxiation is the broader term that encompasses choking and other breath-play activities. It’s all about intentionally restricting oxygen to the brain for sexual arousal. This can include choking, but also things like smothering or using a plastic bag. The idea is that the rush of oxygen when you start breathing again can intensify sexual pleasure.

The Science Behind Erotic Asphyxiation

Ever wondered what’s going on in your body when you’re engaging in a little breath play? Let’s dive into the science behind erotic asphyxiation:

• Your Brain on a High: When you restrict oxygen to your brain, you’re essentially giving it a mini-vacation from reality. As your oxygen levels drop, your brain releases a cocktail of chemicals that can make you feel euphoric, lightheaded, and even a bit loopy.
• The Adrenaline Rush: Your body’s fight-or-flight response kicks into high gear during erotic asphyxiation. Adrenaline starts pumping through your veins, heightening your senses and making everything feel more intense.
• Intensifying Sensations: As oxygen becomes scarce, your nerve endings become more sensitive. This means that every touch, every caress, feels magnified. It’s like turning up the volume on your body’s pleasure receptors. Plus, the lack of oxygen can make your orgasms feel more powerful and last longer.
• The Afterglow: Once oxygen flow returns to normal, you might experience a rush of endorphins – your body’s natural feel-good chemicals. This can lead to a sense of euphoria and deep relaxation.

Remember, while the science behind erotic asphyxiation might sound intriguing, it’s not something to be taken lightly. Always prioritise safety and consent in your sexual adventures.

The Dangers and Risks of Choking During Sex

Before you dive into the world of erotic asphyxiation, let’s talk about the elephant in the bedroom: the risks. Choking during sex might sound exciting, but it’s not all fun and games. Remember that erotic asphyxiation is like playing with fire. Your brain needs oxygen like a plant needs water, and depriving it for too long can lead to some serious consequences. One moment you’re having a great time, and the next, things can take a dangerous turn. Your partner might not be able to signal when it’s too much, especially if they’re caught up in the moment or, you know, can’t breathe. We’re talking about potential brain damage, heart problems, or even accidental death. It’s crucial to understand the risks and practice extreme caution if you decide to explore this kink. We’re talking about:

• Dizziness and disorientation
• Fainting or loss of consciousness
• Seizures
• Brain damage
• Damage to the throat and neck muscles
• Increased risk of stroke
• Mood changes & memory problems
• And in extreme cases, even death

Legal Ramifications: If something goes wrong, you could be facing serious charges. Consent doesn’t protect you if your partner is injured or worse. It’s a legal minefield you don’t want to step into. Remember, there’s a fine line between kinky and risky. If you’re still curious about breath play, consider safer alternatives that don’t involve direct pressure on the throat.

Setting Boundaries and Safety Tips

• Communication: Before you even think about trying erotic asphyxiation, you need to have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Talk about your desires, fears, and limits. Remember, consent is sexy and absolutely necessary. Establish a safe word or signal that means “stop immediately” – something easy to remember even in the heat of the moment.
• Know Your Anatomy: Choking during sex isn’t child’s play. You need to know what you’re doing to avoid serious harm. The sides of the neck are where you want to apply pressure, not the front. Pressing on the windpipe can cause lasting damage. Don’t try if you’re not 100 per cent sure about the anatomy.
• Start Slow and Stay Sober: When you’re ready to experiment, take it slow. Start with light pressure and gradually increase as you both become more comfortable. Never try this when you’re drunk or high. You need to be fully alert and in control.
• Have a Safety Plan: Always have a backup plan. Keep scissors nearby to cut any restraints quickly if needed. Make sure you know basic first aid and CPR. And remember, if something feels off, stop immediately. Your gut instinct is usually right when it comes to safety.

So, there you have it – the basics of erotic asphyxiation. While it can be thrilling for some couples, it’s not something to take lightly. If you’re curious about trying it, have an in-depth conversation with your partner first. Never attempt it while under the influence. And remember, you can always explore other kinky activities that don’t carry the same risks. Your health (and your partner’s) is way more important than any momentary thrill. At the end of the day, your safety and well-being should always come first in the bedroom. Keep things consensual, communicate openly, and have fun exploring your desires in ways that feel good for you.