It is much easier to find faults in your partner and not find faults in yourself. Everyone is full of flaws and this is the main reason why people defend themselves. Thus, they place the blame for a particular situation on their partners. Psychologist Lucille Shackleton shares the consequences and solutions associated with the blame game in relationships.
According to Lucille, when we lay the blame on someone, they become emotionally unavailable. They get upset or defensive about their actions.
Lucille said that once these conditions occur, partners gradually stop prioritizing relationships. At this point, it becomes difficult to build a productive relationship with them.
When there is no communication in the relationship, the work becomes difficult. Partners develop a sense of humiliation whenever you try to initiate a conversation with them.
How to prevent these problems:
Instead of blaming the other person, people should try to understand their point of view. This will give room for a fruitful conversation that will reduce disputes.
We must accept responsibility for our part in the problem. This will encourage the partner to admit their mistakes as well. To resolve a dispute, it is better to give an example.
You shouldn’t be discouraged about setting boundaries in a relationship. Regardless of the degree of intimacy in the relationship, there should also be room for privacy.
There may be situations where partners are blaming you for no reason. At this point, instead of getting agitated, the best solution is to calm yourself down. Resolving disputes by aggressive behavior with an angry partner will be a futile exercise. If we ourselves are in a relaxed mood, we can better manage our partner’s anger.
If you find that some arguments cannot be resolved, there is no use in pursuing them. Keep in mind that there is no winner in arguments.
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