Her Story: My sister-in-law has just returned after finishing her studies abroad. When she left, she was like a child but she has returned as a big, beautiful woman. My wife thinks that I have feelings for her but that is completely wrong. He caught me staring when in fact I was thinking about the new project I’m working on. He indirectly called me a stalker and I know my wife’s jealous side is making her think so. I can’t think of my sister-in-law this way—she’s a baby! The situation is getting very bad and I honestly don’t feel like coming home.
Feedback from Vishal Bhardwaj, Cofounder and Relationship Coach, Predictions for Success: What a woman wants may be the biggest mystery but of course, what a man wants is ‘lust’ is the most common myth of mankind. It is very common for a man to wonder how he would save the world during an apocalypse while watching a romantic movie with the crush of his dreams. Many of us think that women are the real admirers of beauty but in reality men are no less even though their definitions of beauty are different. So you will see that 20 men leave their work and sit patiently and watch a man digging with JCB. In this, I am not defending every stare, but I am explaining the difference between seeing and staring.
For him: It is very normal to have this kind of feeling and it starts even more often when you are not happy with how you are versus how you used to be (inadvertently and unconsciously comparing yourself with your sister). You are absolutely right that women have a sixth sense but so does your sister; If something was wrong, he would have reacted (even if not told you). Our environment has put a myth in our head about “Saali Aadhi Gharwali” (your sister-in-law is like your step-wife) and that myth has put doubt (in women) and lust (in men) in people’s heads But as I said it is just wrong thinking and does not affect everyone. I would strongly recommend looking at this relationship with beauty and not skepticism.
For him: Talk openly with your wife about this and win her trust and confidence. Open communication is the best possible medicine for doubts. Also don’t blame your wife for this because the more you blame her, the more she will believe that you are hiding something. Think from his point of view too.
Reply to Dr Jaya Sukul, Clinical Psychologist at QRG Specialty Hospital: I think that instead of focusing on the relationship between your husband and your sister, it is important that you focus on the relationship with your husband, it is possible that the deep insecurities and lack of steam in your relationship will make you mistrust him. What are you doing. If there was any problem then your sister would complain, I think you need to resolve the distrust you have with your husband as it can become a reason for breakup. Sometimes we think about and project our insecurities and it is possible that even if he has checked it out, it is completely harmless.
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