Sex may be pervasive in our popular culture, but conversations about it are still associated with stigma and shame in Indian households. As a result, most individuals dealing with sexual health issues or trying to find information about sex often resort to unverified online sources or follow the unscientific advice of their friends.
To address the widespread misinformation about sex, News18.com is running a weekly sex column titled ‘Let’s Talk Sex’. Through this column, we hope to start a conversation about sex and address sexual health issues with scientific insight and nuance.
In this article, we will delve deeper into vaginal sex and how to become an expert in stimulating a woman with oral pleasure.
Have you ever wanted to explore the depths of pleasure with your partner, but are unsure where to start? look no further! Cunnilingus is the perfect way to explore, connect with and pleasure a woman.
What is cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus is an intimate act between a lover and their partner. It is the pleasure of giving a woman oral sex, specifically the act of stimulating her clitoris, vulva and labia with your tongue and lips. It’s an important part of any sexual relationship and can be a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. The art of vaginal sex is all about listening – listen carefully for feedback from your partner so you can adjust accordingly for maximum pleasure! To understand how this works, it is helpful to think of the body as an interconnected web. What you do on one side can affect the other, even if they feel distant from each other. When it comes to oral pleasure, stimulating one part of the body can lead to stimulation in another area.
For example, caressing a woman’s thighs with your hands and your mouth will make her clitoris more sensitive and receptive. The same is true for stimulating her belly or breasts – when done correctly, it will heighten her sensitivity and help her get closer to orgasm.
How to talk about vaginal sex with your partner
When it comes to talking about vaginal sex with your partner, it’s important to consider and respect their feelings. Bringing something new into the bedroom can be intimidating, so be sure to choose a time when you’re relaxed and open-minded. Here are some things you can keep in mind:
• Let them know that you both have the same goal – to explore each other’s bodies and experience more pleasure together.
• Affirm your partner by telling them that their body is beautiful and that you are eager to know more about it.
• Respect your partner’s boundaries and limits; Be mindful of what makes them uncomfortable or anxious.
• Ask questions! Everyone has different preferences when it comes to physical comfort, so start by asking what they like or what they would like to repeat from their past experience.
• Even if things don’t go exactly as planned, just remember that laughter can help make the process easier and possibly even more fun!
Positions and Techniques for Vaginal Sex
One of the most important elements of vaginal sex is exploring different angles and positions for the best access and pleasure to a woman’s delicate areas. With the right position, you can really dial in on her pleasure points. Here are some of our favorite positions and techniques:
, 69: This coveted position may seem like a no-brainer, as it allows for mutual verbal stimulation. This can be an incredibly intimate position for you and your partner, but be sure to move slowly and steadily to make sure both parties are comfortable.
, twin: This position is simple yet effective: lie down side by side with your partner and both of you should lie on your sides facing each other. This allows easy access to the clitoris from any angle, so experiment with different motions, such as licking or circular licking motions, to find what works for your partner. Make sure to involve your tongue and fingers for maximum pleasure!
, sitting position: In this position, you can kneel in front of your partner while they lie down with their legs spread or wrapped around their shoulders/body. This is a great way to maintain eye contact while going down on them, providing a sense of intimacy during the act. Use soft strokes with a lot of pressure around her inner thighs and labia before using more direct contact with her clitoris.
Warning Signs A Woman Is Not Enjoying Vaginal Sex
When it comes to cunnilingus, communication is key. That’s why you should be on the lookout for warning signs that a woman is not enjoying your oral pleasure techniques. Here are some key signs to watch for:
, unresponsive: If she isn’t actively involving herself in the pleasure you’re providing, it could be a sign that she’s not into it. Pay attention to subtle responses that indicate his arousal level, such as a slight moan or a slight movement of his hips.
, lack of eye contact: Eye contact can tell us a lot about how someone is feeling, and if your partner is avoiding eye contact or keeps their eyes closed during cunnilingus, they may not be enjoying that much. Not taking as much as you’re thinking.
, verbal dispassion: If you’re not making any noise while you’re having vaginal sex with her (except maybe holding you back), that could also be a sign she’s not enjoying it. Make sure she’s comfortable giving verbal feedback whether it’s a compliment or a request, so you know what works for her.
Vaginal sex can be an extremely arousing and pleasurable experience for both partners. It requires the receiver to trust their partner and the giver to be attentive to the receiver’s needs. Taking the time to understand the unique aspects of female anatomy and pleasure can create a highly gratifying experience for both of you. Everyone’s body is different and it is essential to learn their individual likes, dislikes and preferences. All you have to do is be willing to experiment, be patient, and always remember to communicate. With the right attitude, you will be able to ensure a beautiful and intimate experience with your partner.
Professor (Dr) Saransh Jain is a winner of the Swasth Bharat Ratna Award and is a certified and licensed sexologist by the American Board of Sexology. He is currently Senior Consultant at Dr SK Jain’s Burlington Clinic in Lucknow. The views expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not represent the stand of this publication.
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