Expert advice by Aashmeen Munjal, Ontologist and Relationship Expert: Whenever we are in a relationship, be it mother-in-law, sister-in-law or any kind of relationship, there is always a sense of security and insecurity among people.
Men or women, they may have to face it. So sometimes mothers who have actually spent their entire lives caring for their child: giving birth to them, raising them, raising them – sometimes they feel a little insecure and possessive about them and that Okay.
Try putting yourself in their shoes: tomorrow if you give birth to a baby boy, and you have given your life educating them, teaching them values, take them to the doctor, give them a bath, take care of them.
It is natural that any woman, having good moments with that child, spends her time and energy in raising the child, so it is natural for a woman to feel natural about her child. Now if my child is grown and married and has someone new in his life – his wife.. I may take time to isolate myself or maybe to be secure about the entry of new persons. Feeling this way is a normal occurrence. When you put yourself in another person’s shoes, you will experience compassion. First of all have mercy on your mother-in-law. He is her son too and just because you have come into her life doesn’t mean that she should be just yours and not be with them.
The first step in making a difference in this area is to start being grateful for your mother-in-law. If you want more quality time with your husband, don’t be insecure that your mother-in-law is coming in the way: don’t put your energy and focus on what you don’t want and it will only lead to more such unwanted situations . ,
Now instead of talking about what you don’t want, start talking about what you want.
Focus your attention on what you want. Maybe you want 1 hour of romantic quality time with your spouse: Bring your attention to him. This is the first law of manifestation and the law of attraction.
The second step is to start expressing gratitude for whatever small or big time you can currently spend with your spouse: even if it is only for 1 minute.
The more gratitude you practice, the more desirable situations you will invite into your life. Soon 01 minute may be increased to 05, 10 minutes more. Today there is interference of mother-in-law, tomorrow there may be workload. So your job is not to focus on the problem, but on the solution you want.
Writing : Write thank you for all the good times spent with your spouse
Speaking: talk only about the good times
Hearing: hear yourself speaking about the good times
Vision Board: Stick a picture of yourself spending quality time with your husband in a place where you will see it often, and give your heartfelt thanks for that time.
Visualization: Imagine that you have received the connection and quality time you want.
Focusing your energy on the problem will attract more problems. Focusing your energy on the solution will attract the solution itself. This is the magic power of gratitude.
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